Do you find yourself doing things for people you don’t actually want to be doing? Perhaps you felt like you were roped or guilted into it, or worse yet you were doing said action to win approval from the other person, knowingly or otherwise. We have many names for guys who exhibit these behaviors: the pushover, wuss, wimp or patsy (and several others I’ll spare your virgin eyes from.) Though the names are all different, the heart of the issue is the same. It is simply an issue of not adhering to personal boundaries.
Personal boundaries are the place where you differentiate yourself from others and hold true to your values, beliefs and desires. They are essentially the limits of acceptable behavior you establish for yourself and those around you. Boundaries also define the relationships you have with everyone outside of yourself and are the foundation of your personal integrity and power. As a mature man you must take the responsibility for defining and maintaining your personal boundaries, as they are a hallmark of a strong masculine character. Read the rest of this entry »
As we discussed in part one of this topic, all sexuality is based in the interplay of polarity between the masculine and feminine. This flow of energy is natural and healthy, and should be embraced and enhanced in your sexual relationships if you are to keep the flames of sexual passion burning bright. Like two magnets, it is what draws men and women together into the thralls of unexplainable lust and attraction.
Unfortunately far too many people in the interest of political correctness, autonomy, politeness, and attempting to gain the approval of others are ashamed of amplifying sexual polarity and try to diminish the differences between the masculine and the feminine. This couldn’t be more counterproductive. In doing so they neutralize sexual polarity without ever realizing what they are doing and end up suppressing the desires of their own true sexual core. Denying your sexual core creates a contradiction within yourself between your actions and true desires, and results in the inability to relax and be receptive to the possibility of real love and connection. Essentially, to deny your sexual core is to deny love itself. Read the rest of this entry »